I have very strong personal views on this subject. My hometown Denver, Colorado is a meca for interacial dating and marriage. I grew up in an environment where I was often the minority twice. I was the black girl among white children and I was the black girl among bi-racial children. I remember many birthday parties, field trips or school group pictures where I was the darkest girl among a plethora of bi-racial little girls and boys.  I had no idea that this was not necesarily the norm in every community until I was in my mid-twenties. 

Here's my opionon on interacial dating. I in no way have a problem with it. When I see a Black man and a White woman coupled up I don't cringe or silently steam as they pass by.  My view could be in part to familiarity with this coupling through the great majority of my upbringing. I however, and it's a big however, have a standing from the rooftops and shouting out loud objection to Black men who exclusively date White women. For this reason I was greatful that this topic was shown on national television on this recent Dr. Drew episode. I've had a few debates with some who claim that men that refuse to date within their race exist.  It's very sad but men who refuse to date women who look like their mothers and sisters do indeed exist. 

I feel that if a man falls in love with a woman and she happens to have porcelin skin, I will be happy for him and even throw rice at their wedding. There are many cases when a brotha will date a woman regardless of race. If this Black man happens to settle down with a woman who is Caucasian I cant see how anyone from the outside looking in could dare fault or judge him.  I wouldn't dare roll my eyes at the bi-racial couple in the mall because I cant determine every Black man's heart in deciding who he will date and how he arrived to that decision. I have had Black men hold the resturant door open for me as well as his White date, where it appears that he does not have a resentment towards me. I would assume this same brotha would also date Ms. Mocha if given the chance. 

Now swinging to pendulum to the reverse. I personally know Black men, yes personally, who will directly tell you that they will not date a Black woman, especially from my home town. This is enough to, as Michael and Janet eloquently put it, make me wanna scream. It's a shame that some men would be so close minded as to think that all Black women would not be worthy of their presence. That somehow we all joined the same neck rolling university where we all majored in bad attitudes.

The overwhelming numbers of my single Sistas with so much to offer and give is enough for me to want to move us all to an African colony but it's even deeper than that for me. I feel mostly sorry for the children that will be produced from these backward thinking men. To imagine my baby boy in 20 years having to deal with these perceptions and self hatred that will be ingrained into the minds of his peers, this makes me sad. 

I hope there can be some healing. I hope that brothas that have these perceptions  can be exposed beyond their current mental collapse.

I hope that Sistas can learn to find their own value and learn to broaden themselves as well. If love comes for her in a lighter package, why should she not explore it? Lastly I hope the next generation will do better than we have. To redefine their definition of love.